At times, a small fight could be taken too seriously and end up with a breakup. After the so-called breakup, you tried seeing other people, and have come to a stage where you would finally realize that nothing is going to work and you made a huge mistake by letting her go. Well, you are not the only one like this in the whole world. There are many people who broke up with their girlfriends or boyfriends and wondering how to get back with them.
In situations like when you are not so sure about yourself, your ex, or your relationship, a good directed plan will provide you something to always look forward to. This post is all about the mistakes that people should avoid in the process of getting back with their ex.
So, this post is exclusively for those who have no idea and find tips to get back with ex-girlfriend. It is never too late to rekindle the relationship with your ex. But in the process of getting back with her, there are certain dos and don’ts which everyone needs to follow otherwise you may end up breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend again. So here are our top, best 7 steps for people who are trying to get back with their ex.
- Begin conversation with a simple “Hi”
Sometimes, absence makes your heart grow fonder and at other times, it makes you too needy and desperate and seeks out other people. End of the story never starts your rebound relationship with a call. First, try sending a simple “Hi” or “Hello” text. And again, be careful if you are sending anything else other than hi or hello because texts can be deceptive and will make your ex think that you are looking for a booty call.
- Do not rush things
You already once were close to her but it doesn’t mean that you will get to talk or do whatever you can. First, propose getting together. And getting together doesn’t mean moving in together. It means you just get back with your ex. Because, at the end of the day, they shouldn’t feel like you apologized after ages out of nowhere and was proposing to moving back in. Instead, they should feel secure, safe, and protected. For that, you need to take things slow and stop being pushy about getting together instantly.
- Give them a call once in a while
If everything is going great then try suggesting a casual date by calling them not over a text. And of course, no emails. Let them hear your voice and feel them that you are putting some serious efforts on getting back with them. Find a feel good movie, art exhibition, etc. or anything that makes her excited about going out with you.
Such moments will your ex a chance to rethink about the relationship in a relaxed environment without any push. But remember one thing, your ex coming out with you on a casual date is not a sign of getting back with you. It means that they are only started or about to start reconsidering your relationship. Even though if your ex lets you down, give them some space and time. Never ever beg, plead, or push them to make an instant decision. If it is meant to happen, then sooner or later they will come around.
- Express your feelings and what you think about her
If your ex accepts to go out with you on a normal date, ease in. Ask him/her how their work is going and what they are up to. It gives you some information to talk with them and keep the conversation on. Then, if your evening or lunch is going well and he/she looks like to be warming up then say that you want him/her back in your life. Of course, there are chances for you to get a second chance but don’t start the conversation all of a sudden or as soon as they arrive. Also, you don’t need to talk every little thing that went wrong in your relationship. You know, your ex knows and that is enough so keep the conversation light and simple.
- Do not bring up your past in the conversation
Once you admit your mistakes, look ahead and see what’s in the future. Don’t dig things that you think went wrong in the relationship or your ex. Focus on positive things that brought you both together in the first place. Positive qualities like good sense of humor, braveness, etc. that gave you a positive side and made you fell in love with her.
- Use your little friends’ group
Even though you are looking for a new start, you should still tap back into those beautiful feelings. A simple way to bring back those wonderful times is to meet up in a good and known environment such as a day out with your common friends. Just ensure that you can easily break the ice and start the conversation by telling stories, jokes, and laugh together. It will give them a comfortable feeling and also fun at the same time.
- You both believe in second chances
Who said relationships can’t be given second chances? There is no such rule that states that second chances are not worthwhile. It’s up to you and your ex if giving the second shot gives your relationship a meaning then maybe you can try and give it a shot.
- Show her that you are a changed person
you need to show them that you are a changed person and learned your lessons from your experience and now, you are trying to be a better person. Of course, this ain’t overnight task. It is definitely will take take some days or could be even months for your to believe that you are no more a person who they used to know. But have trust and faith, things will eventually fall into place.
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